Why I’m Not a Fan of Valentines Day

Valentines Day

*DISCLAIMER: This post is not in anyway me attacking or criticising anybody who likes Valentines Day. This is simply why I do not like it. However if you like it then go ahead, you do you and I’ll do me*

Over the past few weeks I’ve been questioned a lot on my Valentines plans. I’ve been hearing questions such as “What have you bought John”, “Take it John’s going to be spoiling you then” and “So have you guys planned anything nice”. Every single person has a look of confusion, and almost pity, when I say “No. I haven’t bought anything, John hasn’t bought anything, and we have nothing planned”. In fact, since Valentines is on a Tuesday this year, I’m not even seeing him.

See here’s the thing. I don’t see why we should need a day of the year were we have to show our other halves that we love them. To be totally honest, I would much rather my boyfriend surprise me with flowers any other day of the year because he wants to, rather than on the 14th February simply because he feels like he has to. A few weeks ago I even saw somebody ask on twitter if they should buy the guy they’re dating a gift for Valentines despite only been on one date.

I just feel like Valentines has become all about the commercialism. The shops are filled with tacky red hats, and accessories, and shelves upon shelves of chocolates. I know my instagram is going to full of pictures of huge amounts of gifts, most of which surpass what I would receive for all of my gifts throughout the year. Last year I was shocked to see the amount of people posting their ‘wish lists’ for Valentines. Like is that seriously a thing?

I really hope that this post doesn’t come across as me hating on those that do celebrate Valentines Day, because that’s not my motive. We all have to our own thing. I’m just stating my opinions on the day. I mean hey, if I can find a funny punny card, I might even buy John one. But that won’t be because it’s Valentines Day, that will be because I love a cheesy pun. And if I was seeing John, I’m sure we would have went out for food, or to the cinema, but again, that wouldn’t have been because it’s Valentines. It would have have been because that’s what we do on a normal basis.

  • Oh I’m so glad you posted this! I couldn’t agree more. Valentine’s Day is a just a commercial day to boost sales at the time of the year they always slump. I’m single just now, but even in relationships I just refused to do Valentine’s Day. If you love someone, tell them every day not just on the 14th February. X


    • I’m really glad there are people who agree with me on this! Like this year I didn’t even see my boyfriend on Valentines and everyone thought this was so weird, and I could tell they were my judging my relationship because of it.
      x Lauren

  • Caity Brewin

    I agree with you 100%! Dan and I have been together for 5 years and never do anything. I have never understood why people post huge declarations of love on social media either? Why don’t they just say it face to face, nobody else cares. Should show your partner you love them everyday, not because the calendar tells you too. Great post 🙂 xxx

    • Oh god yes, I hate the public declarations ha! But then, I’m a very private person, I don’t even like to have my relationship status on fb. And yes, you should definitely show people every day! Thanks for reading Caity 🙂
      x Lauren

  • I totally agree with this. I am currently single but when I did have a boyfriend I only felt we had to celebrate valentines day as that’s what everybody else did. It’s totally over comercialised. Loved this! xxxo

    Rach |http://doublejointedgirlandherdog.blogspot.co.uk/

    • Exactly, it’s like you have to buy a present to prove to other people that you’re happy. Thanks for reading Rachel!
      x Lauren

  • In my opinion love should be celebrated everyday not just one day of the year! I agree with you that no one should feel like they have to go out and buy something for their loved one just because it’s February 14th!

    Kayleigh | anenthusiasmfor.blogspot.co.uk

    • Exactly. I think there’s just so much pressure to buy your other half presents. I don’t mind the more low-key side of it: making dinner, telling each other you love them, etc. It’s just the commercial side
      x Lauren

  • helena

    I think it has become so commercialised too!

  • Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Lauren! I’m in two minds about Valentine’s – it’s a nice excuse to go out for dinner if you want to, but like you say, I’d rather receive flowers randomly on any other day, rather than on a day which obliges my boyfriend to buy them for me! Romance can be kept alive in so many other ways than just spoiling someone on one day of the year!

    Abbey 💕 http://www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

    • Yes I totally agree Abbey! If my bf would have been at mine on Valentines, I probably would have made him a dinner, (I wouldn’t go out because it’s so busy ha) or bought him a little treat. It’s just the whole commercial side I’m not a fan of
      x Lauren

  • Rianne Mitchell

    Valentine’s wish lists!? – is that really thing lol? I get what you mean, I love valentine’s day however, I don’t feel the need to buy presents at all and me and my bf already make the effort to spend time together so really it is just another day… but it’s still nice to celebrate

    • Luckily I didn’t really see any this year, but last year I swear I saw loads! If I had saw my bf on Valentines, I probably would have made us a nice dinner or something, but I think it’s the commercial side of it that puts me off ha
      x Lauren

  • Lucy

    I agree… love everyday! xxxxxx


    • Yes! We should definitely love every day. Thanks for reading Lucy!
      x Lauren

  • I agree, why should people show so much love on one partially day! But wish list??? So bad!!! xox

    • Luckily I didn’t really see any this year, but I swear to God I saw loads last year! Like all consisting of hundreds of pounds of makeup and clothes.
      x Lauren

  • Sian…

    I’m so with you on this. I used to work in a card shop and the amount of crap we sold for the day was stupid. Half of the gifts didn’t even relate to love; they just had hearts and a soppy saying plastered on them. I’m single so wasn’t fussed anyway this year but in a relationship, you should be showing how much you love someone on a regular basis instead of just on one day because you’re forced to!

    Sian x

    • Yes, I work in a supermarket and we sell a lot of crap as well! Even stupid Valentines cowboy hats, like wtf? ha. Thanks for reading Sian!
      x Lauren

  • I completely understand what you mean though I don’t feel the same way. My boyfriend and I don’t buy each other anything for Valentine’s day – including no cards. It’s partly due to my birthday being 15th of Feb but also because it just doesn’t feel necessary.

    However, I don’t view Valentine’s as a day of forced affection. I see it as an excuse to celebrate our relationship. Even though we do that as often as possible, I like taking advantage of the opportunity. All we did this year was buy steaks from the butchers and eat them in bed but it was enough.

    Another good post!

    Zoe Louise | http://bit.ly/zoelouiseblog

    • I think low-key Valentines like that, I don’t mind. It’s just for me I get so many questions about what I’m buying John, what’s he buying me that it has put me off. Maybe it’s just where I live, but I find people can be very judgemental and I can see the weird looks I get when I tell them I’m not buying him anything ha. So people have just put me off it.
      Thank you for reading 🙂
      x Lauren