Your twenties are a strange time. Everyone expects you to have it together. You’re supposed to have the career, the relationship and the perfect friendships. But the truth is, most of us are still trying to find out who we are and what exactly it is we want from life. So todays post is going to be about exactly that. Feeling lost in your twenties.
Ah careers. It’s a tricky one isn’t it? I’m nearing the age of twenty-five and still stuck in a dead end job in a supermarket. I’m not even full time: I’m on a zero hour contact. Don’t get me wrong, I could probably get a full time contract with them if I really wanted to, but the truth is I don’t want one. I know most people probably think I’m a failure. After all, I went to university. I got the degree. I just chose not to pursue a career in anything child related which is what I studied at university.
Honestly, I still find it astonishing that we are expected to know what we want to do for the rest of our lives at the age of 17 or 18. Back then, I thought I wanted to be a teacher. About half way through my degree I realised that wasn’t for me. And by the time I graduated I had decided that I didn’t want to work with children at all. So it was back to the drawing board for me. I’ve finally decided I want to pursue digital marketing, but of course it means a lot of work and perhaps going back to school.
I’ve been in a relationship now for a year and a half, but a lot of my friends are still single. For most of them, this seems to be a cause for concern. They think if they don’t find somebody soon they’ll be single for ever. You see, society has made us think that if we aren’t married off by our mid-twenties we’re past our sell-by dates. Even being in a relationship doesn’t stop societies questions. I get asked constantly when me and my boyfriend are getting engaged. I mean seriously? We’ve only been together a year and a half. We both live at home. I don’t even have a proper job. Why would anyone think I would want to get married right now?
When we are in school, friendships are so easy. You see each other five days a week in school. You have little to no responsibilities that get in the way of nights out, shopping trips or holidays. As we get older, we move away, get new jobs, get new responsibilities. This results in a lot of friendships ending. It’s difficult to deal with, but it happens. However what we’re left with is a few strong, real friendships.
When we’re younger, I’m sure most of us imagine that by our mid-twenties we will all own our own house. Unfortunately for a lot of us this isn’t a case. I lived in Belfast during university and moving back home was difficult for me. It still is. Don’t get me wrong, my family is easy to live with. But I miss having my own independence. Not being questioned every time I leave the house, and having someone comment on what time I stay up. Unfortunately I can’t afford to move out right now. I chose to buy a car instead. I’m not even sure when I’ll be able to afford to move out. It’s all just so expensive.
Does anybody else ever feel lost? Let me know in the comments so we can all feel lost together!*POST MAY CONTAIN AFFILIATE LINKS